Every morning in my journal I do a thought download and then circle just the circumstances.
These are the neutral facts of what I have written. They aren’t good or bad, they just are. Everything else is just a story.
I was surprised today when I got to the word “privacy” and realized that it’s not a fact.
The state of having privacy isn’t something everyone in the world could agree upon.
It’s different based on how you think about it.
Even the dictionary definition is curious: freedom from unauthorized intrusion.
If I authorize or allow someone to come into my space, I can still have privacy.
I’ve been thinking about this today because we’re staying in an Airbnb studio apartment for the next two weeks.
The elements of my life are still the same – Josh and I are staying in a small space without doors – but my thoughts are very different.
This isn’t private.
It’s too easy to wake up Josh and not be alone in the morning.
I don’t have the right kind of space for my usual routine.
But none of that is actually true. I could decide all of this is very private if I wanted to.
It’s funny because up until I circled just my circumstances, I assumed what I was thinking about this space was factual. This is just not a private place.
How often do we do that? How often do we assume that the space we are in or the people we are around have power over us?
Maybe more often than we know.
But here’s the thing: When we assume we don’t have privacy, we don’t create privacy.
But when we know we know that privacy isn’t a fact, we can figure out how to create it with our thoughts.